Be your best YOU!
Important things I’ve learned so far
- I am loved absolutely and unconditionally and that gives me the ability to love others absolutely and unconditionally too.
- I have the power to choose to lead my life at any moment.
- I can do anything I put my mind to. I just need to take the first step and be persistent.
- I don’t need to look for happiness somewhere out there, it is already inside of me and I am worth it.
- All the answers are already in me, I just need to be aware, pay attention and learn how to access them.
- The only thing I can control is to choose how I want to be each day.
- Life is a miracle. I choose to be alive.
- It’s important to understand where people are coming from. The only people that cause damage, are people who have been damaged themselves. I hold them in a place of loving kindness in my heart, believe they can change and they might actually choose to change. That’s all I can do.
- I matter, my life counts. My value and worth in the world are a given.
- I don’t ever judge or evaluate others. I am open to their own truth. And love them just for who they are.
- I take responsibility for the choices I make, whatever they are. I’m sure I made them with the best of my knowledge at any time.
- Theories are just that. What really counts is my own experience of things.
- All the things that put us in a place of fear are a product of our minds.
- Self care is vital to remind myself that magic exists in my life.
- There is always something good and positive in every situation.
- Protect myself and my energy, don’t let anybody ever put me down. It’s not about me.
- Life is too short. Don’t waste it.
- At the end of each day I find at least 5 things to be grateful for. It totally changes the way I see the world around me.
- Knowledge is never too much. Keep on learning. Take action to improve myself.
- I don’t need to be afraid anymore.
- Getting rid of clutter frees me to receive what I really need.
You might take my word for it, but go ahead and experience it anyway
Our attitudes are a reflection of our beliefs. Our beliefs about the world determine how we think about and experience it. To improve our ability to think and experience the world, it is vital that we learn to develop beliefs that serve us. Here are a few worth holding on to:
The way you see the world is not how the world is but simply a representation of it. Like any map, our maps of the world are only descriptions and not completely accurate or true. It’s just a useful, or not useful, way of thinking about it. Change the way you think about something to make it more useful. In other words, change your map of the world.
Since we use five senses to take the world in, we can also usefully understand the way we think in terms of these same five senses. Hence, we make internal sounds, talk to ourselves, get feelings, and have internal tastes and smells. This is how we represent the world.
When you take responsibility for your own communication and it produces effective results with others, you will have a much better chance of succeeding than if you blame any misunderstanding on those you are communicating with. It’s more useful to take responsibility to ensure that you are getting through to your audience, as this is what ensures you perform at your best. If you are happy to blame your audience because they are not listening or understanding, you are not communicating the best you can.
It is because you have a brain and a sense of humor that you have everything you need to change. The key is to learn how to use them to make such changes permanent. You have the ability to alter your thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
There is a difference between who we are and what we do. The fact that we feel depressed, engage in bad habits, or communicate ineffectively says nothing about us or our worth. We simply need to learn how to think differently, feel differently, behave differently, and communicate differently.
Our behaviors and feelings are trying to help us in some way. For example, fear is there to try to protect us. A fear of spiders is useful in African jungles but not so useful in a portuguese living room. If we can find out how to satisfy the intention with a more useful behavior, we can find change happens much more easily.
Failure only exists when you place a time limit on something. It is not that we fail. It is simply that we get things wrong from time to time. When we can learn from each mistake, you can see mistakes as feedback, which can be used to improve the way we perform.
adapted from The Beliefs of Success by Richard Bandler and Owen Fitzpatrick