Have a good cry if it feels like it – grief can be a doorway to your deepest self.
As long as your sense of self is focused on your emotional pain, you will unconsciously resist or sabotage any attempt that you might make to heal that pain. When you are so attached to that pain that you identify yourself with it, you cannot become free of the pain. To realize this can be quite shocking but it’s also the first step in breaking that attachment.
After you’ve noticed this, give yourself a little time and space to wash your soul – a good cry often helps.